Women don’t want me, and it’s not my fault
The life of a truecel
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The incel community comes under fire sometimes, and in a way that I find completely unfair. Sometimes people act as though incels are inherently sexist and anti-women; they talk about us like we are going around yelling at and assaulting women left and right. They portray my community as one full of vitriol and hate. They act like the people who interact with incels are actually the victims, ignoring the reality that the incel community exists because we have been victimized by the system.
I don’t hate women. I want women. I probably treat women with more kindness and respect than most of the normies who actually pull do. I hold open doors, I keep a respectful distance, and if I ever went on a date, I would definitely pay for it. I could treat women so much better than the way their boyfriends do. But women will never actually give me a chance, because, even if they say that’s what they want, all they’re really looking for is someone attractive. And if you don’t fit their standards, it doesn’t matter how nice you are, you won’t be given a chance.
Do you know what it’s like to live that way? Do you know how it feels to know you have so much to bring to the table, but you’re shunned every time you look at a woman with any interest? Do you know what it’s like to watch a man do exactly the same thing you do, and on him it’s acceptable, but the second you try, you’re gross and weird and creepy? Hell, he could treat a woman horribly—so much worse than you ever would—and because he’s more attractive than you, it’s okay. As much as women talk about all the personality traits they want in a man—kind, funny, smart, caring, thoughtful, respectful—they don’t actually care about any of that. If you have all of those traits, and you’re deemed unattractive by society, they won’t care. They won’t let you have sex with them anyways.
That is why I don’t even try to be nice to them anymore. It doesn’t matter; it’s never mattered. Women don’t want nice guys, they want attractive ones. Maybe it’s genetic, maybe it’s societal, but the truth is that the only sex women want to have is with these fucking chads. And it’s not fair. Everyone deserves love and affection. Everyone deserves physical connection. But women won’t fucking give it to me. And what pisses me off the most is that they act like they would. They’ll fucking smile at you and treat you like a normal person until the second you try to make a move, then all of a sudden you’re disgusting and they don’t want to talk to you anymore. You can be their friend and listen to all of their stupid relationship problem bullshit, you can be supportive and give advice, but then when you try to get what you’ve been waiting for the whole time, they’ll deny you. They’ll use you, knowing that they won’t let you have sex with them, and manipulating you to give them attention despite that. It makes me sick.
So yeah, I don’t hate women. But I know they’ll never treat me with the respect I deserve; they’ll never touch me or let me touch them. So I don’t even try to interact with them anymore. I only want to talk to men who understand me—who understand this struggle. They get it. And besides, if I can’t fuck women, why on earth would I talk to them?