Exploring different “spots”

The G-Spot—besides being the pun-intended name of this section—is a rather misunderstood spot. Some research even suggests that it isn’t real. Matters only get more complicated when taking other “spots” into consideration, such as the P spot, which far less people are knowledgeable on the existence of.

Besides its designation as the female “spot” of pleasure, many people are unaware of how to access and activate the G spot. Being the most well-known pleasure area does not make the G spot any more “basic.” In fact, finding and pleasing a part of the body that might not even exist makes the pursuit of the G spot even more mysterious. 

Named after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg—whose research in 1940s led to its “discovery”—the G spot is supposedly a location about two inches within in the vagina. When activated, it will swell slightly and result in pleasurable stimulation that might lead to an orgasm. While location differs from person to person, it is usually found around the clitourethrovaginal complex—a fancy word describing the zone where the vagina, urethra and clitoris join.

If there is documentation of where this spot lies, however, why is there debate over its existence? Mainly, doubt arises from the fact that many G spot studies focus on anecdotal evidence. 

While studies have in fact “proven” its existence, these studies usually rely on small participant pools. A 2009 King’s College London study found that twins did not report having a G spot in the same location as their sibling, further casting reservations. 

If you’d like to add your voice to the debate—in the name of science, of course—it’s said that lying on your back and sticking two clean fingers—whether your own or your partner’s—about two inches into the vagina in a “come here” position will help determine its location. Then push against the vaginal wall with firm pressure. Due to its location near the bladder, you might feel like you have to urinate when it’s pushed against. 

Not everyone derives sexual pleasure from their G spot being touched, however, but that’s OK—there are other spots to explore. 

For people with penises, the P spot, or prostate, is the penile equivalent of the G spot. It is even situated in around the same area as the G spot—around the pelvis and near the bladder. 

The similar placements of the P spot and G spot have led to some theories that the G spot develops into the prostrate in utero. These theories are based off the interesting biological fact that all fetuses start off with vaginas, which develop into penises with the presence of XY chromosomes. 

Unlike the G spot, there tends to be less debate about the P spot’s existence, though; like the G spot, not everyone will find its stimulation pleasurable. 

It can be activated by inserting a finger one to two inches in the anus, or touching the perineum, which is the skin between the testicles and anus. Butt plugs are specially designed for this, but be sure to instruct yourself on how to properly use them before experimenting; this includes how your toy needs to be cleaned, handled and so on. 

Exploration of your body is empowering. Explore vastly, but explore safely.