Exploring sexuality through threesomes

Threesomes are a mysterious, taboo type of sex—but one that most people have thought about before. Fantasizing ourselves in a state of sexual euphoria, engaged in a moment of pure sexuality with two other people could be hard to resist. The threesome is a fairly liberal endeavor where one, in the hopes that they will respond in kind, must ask participants to open themselves both mentally and sexually to two other people. This motley crew of sexual beings can be any combination of genders: three males, two males and a female, two females and a male or three females. As long as one feels the desire and the drive to experience this new form of intimacy, nothing else matters.

Many people assume that males primarily fantasize about threesomes, but this is simply an idea that stems from the stereotype that associates men with perversion. The allure of a threesome does not extend from our innate sexual hunger—it stems from our desire for intimate connection.

In life, many seek companionship and relationships that can fulfill that desire. They can bring us close to a person who understands us, accepts us and helps us to grow as individuals.

The act of lovemaking embodies this. In The Big Lebowski, Maude Lebowski refers to sex as “the physical act of love,” which rings true in life. Sex allows you to share everything with a person. All of the troubles and anxieties fade away, and you are lost in each other, if only for a brief time.

Being with a person in such an intimate way is a tantalizing thought—the threesome is the next level up from that. You no longer share your love with one person, but with two. You are opening yourself up further and attempting to deepen the relationship that you share with your partners.

But with this added depth comes a certain anxiety. When bringing it up to your partner, there is a chance of miscommunication. Your partner may think that you are bored, dissatisfied or simply a pervert.

The best way to avoid this would be to develop a healthy, open sexual dialogue with your partner. With that in place, you two can have a mature discussion with each other in regard to a threesome.

When the time comes to do the dirty deed, jealousy is a significant possibility. One partner may become too invested or get cold feet in response to the introduction of another intimate partner.

That is the gamble, however, that comes with a threesome. You and your partner are putting yourselves out there, seeing if you can express your feelings in an even more potent manner. Your relationship may come out of the endeavor stronger than ever, but as a couple you will never know until you try it.

You just have to be willing to try something new.