Sex bucket lists cultivate exploration

Deep down, most of us have secret sexual wants and desires. Some of us speak up in order to fulfill our wants while others keep our fantasies under lock and key. Wherever you may fall on this spectrum, a sexual bucket list is an interesting concept.

Bucket lists are a great way not only to set goals, but also to attain that awesome rush of satisfaction that only comes when you’re able to cross something off. It’s time to shake things up and try that one thing that you have always considered but never followed through with.

Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, so not all lists will look the same, but that’s the beauty of a bucket list: it’s yours and yours alone.

Explore a new position: let your imagination run wild on this one—the possibilities are endless. Kiss someone of the same sex: hey, you never know. Maybe it’s something you’ve always wanted to do. You may end up loving it. Have sex with the lights on: take the time to appreciate how beautiful sex and the human body can be. Use a sex toy: this is always a fun way to introduce something new in bed. There are plenty of options for both partners’ desires. Have sex somewhere other than in bed: whether it’s in the shower, on the floor or on your kitchen counter, location can change what you feel and how you feel it.

Be tied up or tie someone up: let your partner take control or be the one in control. This can be an exciting way of testing your trust—just make sure you are both on the same page and know each other’s limits. Use a blindfold: let your other senses focus on how your body is feeling. A safe word is recommended. Have rough sex: sex can be a great way to relieve stress and tension—but again, establish where each partner draws the line and consider using a safe word. Have passionate sex: sex can also be an incredible way to grow closer to your partner. Make eye contact and keep it. Pay attention to your breathing and take in everything that you are feeling together. Try a threesome: introducing a third person in bed is the ultimate way to spice things up. Go crazy and have some fun.

Sex can be anything you want it to be. Everyone values it in different ways, which is part of the reason why it is so wonderful. Whether you enjoy sex for the physical or emotional benefits, creating a bucket list is a creative way to get what you are really looking for. At the end of the day, respectful and open communication with your partner is essential to a healthy and prosperous sex life.