The typical narrative of American society has been to fall in love, get married, have kids and grow old together. For many people, that is still the ideal path, but college represents an obvious latency from it. It provides an environment that encourages sexual exploration and “getting laid” as much as possible.
So, even if your endgame is marriage, you should take advantage of the unique college experience while you can by pursuing multiple sexual partners and yes, having a few one-night stands.
I’m not saying you should bring a new person home from the In Between every weekend for a one-time fling. The point is, if you feel a spark, you shouldn’t be ashamed to put yourself out there. You can’t let society’s negative perception of uninhibited promiscuity hold you back from having new experiences and exploring your sexual desires.
Of course, balancing numerous sexual partners - possibly at the same time, if you’re into a little ménage à trois - means a higher risk of pregnancy and contracting sexually transmitted diseases. So, it is important to use condoms and other means of contraception and protection as well as having an open dialogue with anyone you’re sleeping with, regardless of gender.
One of the problems with monogamy is that it’s inherently limiting. This is especially egregious for individuals who may not adhere to the gay/straight dichotomy; the idea of being with both genders is quite attractive. Commitment to one person, unfortunately, can’t give you that.
The most important thing to remember about promiscuity is that you should only explore the option if you are comfortable with it. You shouldn’t sleep around as a coping mechanism to deal with deep-seated issues. Sexual promiscuity should be about opening yourself up to new experiences, so to speak.
So, whether you have one lover or 20, as long as you are confident and happy with your sexual situation, it will result in many pleasurable experiences.