Q: How do I tell my significant other that I want to spend time alone with them? First, you could casually bring up something you wanted to do together anyway, like going to the movies, taking a trip or going out to eat. I assume that the two of you have been alone together before, so it could be a good idea to reminisce on things that the two of you used to do together alone.
Remind them of how much fun it was and how much you enjoyed spending time together one-on-one. Then say something like, "It's been such a long time since we've done anything like that. I miss it; do you think we could try something like that again?" If they try to suggest inviting other friends or couples along, gently tell them that it would mean a lot to you if you could have alone time with them.
Flatter them a little and tell them it would make your day. They shouldn't get mad at you for wanting to have special time together. If anything, make a compromise: one day alone for every day with friends, or something along those lines. If they start to get testy, remind them that it's not that you don't like their friends, it's just that you need time alone to show each other how much you mean to each other; oftentimes that's not easy to do with other people watching.
If they're still avoiding alone time, maybe it's time to re-think the relationship. Are you two on the same page? They could be thinking or expecting different things, and you have the right to know what's going on.
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